“Here are all of things that Judith says immediately before Harley has sex with her in his private plane: "No." “Stop it." “I don’t want to." “Get off of me." Judith does not want to have sex with Harley. (There’s another layer of nuance here—one reason Judith doesn’t want to have sex with Harley is that she’s deeply invested in Perry’s beloved gender roles. But the reason for her “no” is irrelevant. Her spiritual weakness betrays her, Harley can tell she wants it, and she’s punished for that weakness.)
He does not stop. He just tries harder. He knows what she really wants, no matter what her mouth and body are saying. She never says yes. He says, smugly, “Now you can say you resisted.” He has sex with her anyway. This is a rape scene. But, in Perry’s universe, Harley is right. She did secretly want it. And that’s the real problem.”
“This idea—that men know what women really want, that resistance can be fucked out of us (or consent fucked into us)—is DEEPLY NOT OKAY. It’s not okay to telegraph this to young men or young women or victims of sexual violence or potential perpetrators of sexual violence or lawmakers or anyone. It’s a paradigm that I was hoping had died out with Pepe LePew. It is frightening.”
-Lindy West, Jezebel
I think it’s VERY important that everyone, ladies and gentleman, understands that this is a rape scene. This isn’t breaking down defenses or playing hard to get. Coercing, manipulating, threatening, intimidating, or even guilt tripping someone saying no into sex is rape. Doesn’t matter if they don’t scream or kick or cry. Doesn’t matter if they are your boyfriend, husband, wife, fuck buddy, crush, or stranger.
Check out these other links for more discussion.
How To Not Be Rapey
I never called it rape: The Ms. Report on recognizing, fighting, and surviving date and acquaintance rape